Why do you want to help others?

‘I want to donate some money’.  This is unusual, but for the time being let us consider this hypothesis is true.  How can I find the right person to donate money?  Its my hard earned money, so I have to make sure it should go to the neediest person in all available planets.


I’m ready to excuse those planets which are still not identified but I have to make sure there are no eligible candidates in Moon, Mars etc…Is this shows my possessiveness?  At least I don’t think so; here my aim is to donate the money to the neediest person.  I mean, my hard earned money!


But how can I prioritize other person’s needs?  Is it right to search for the neediest person?


 The bigger question is, why am I donating money? – is it for my emotional equilibrium? Or am I feeling that I have earned enough money for my life (this is again unusual) and its time for me to understand other’s pain and help them?  If that is true, has donating money is the best way for helping others?  As per the readings I had, Micro-financing, setting up a small scale industry etc… would be definitely better than donation. Unfortunately I have only my hard earned money for donation not my time, effort and mind.  


I have the habit of trying to do the best and efficient things and end up with not doing anything.  Thoughts become recursive and not leading to a conclusion. 


I have looked around and noticed an old man begging for money, an old lady sitting under a tree and selling fruits, another old lady walking around the bus stand and selling jasmine garland and a handicapped man approaching people for selling lottery tickets (Yes, he has only Kerala state lottery tickets).    I have shortlisted these four are the eligible candidates and wondered, is there a term ‘Systematic Donation Plan (SDP)’ coined by any financial institutions to reduce the risk of misusing the donated amount!   


Let me elaborate, if I have donated the money to the first person, what I will do, if that person purchases a cigarette and starts smoking with that money?  That may break my emotional equilibrium.  The other three shortlisted candidates might not accept my donation because they would like to do work (irrespective of their old age and physical difficulties) to take their life forward.  I have to buy fruits, jasmine or lottery ticket (though that is not my need of the hour) from them to make sure that they have received my money.  Or even I can buy fruits from the old lady and donate thatto the old man. 


Last week, while travelling in a city bus I saw a small gathering in front of a mosque.  An old man is standing in the middle of a group and delivering his speech.  He was talking about the topic which confused me a few years back.  I got down from the bus and joined the group of listeners. 


If our planets are employees of a commercial firm then I strongly believe that sun had joined that firm somewhere around April-May.  I also have the habit of working hard and demonstrating my dedication just before my appraisal period.  Though it was too hot, his speech fascinates me.


According to that unknown old man, there are seven stages for donation.  People have to progress from one stage to another.  Though it was not the exact word to text translation of his speech, this is what I gathered from that old man.


Stage-1:  In the beginning stage, we tries to put our control on donation – how it is being used, who is utilizing it and where is it going etc…  In this stage we will donate only to those who are approaching us or to those identified by us.


Stage-2: In this stage, we will help people (apart from those who are approached/identified by us) who are in need.  We will try to help people whom we know only through our friends, colleagues etc…


Stage-3: We will reduce our control over the donation.  We will get happiness by helping others not by knowing how it is being utilized by others.


Stage-4:  We will get satisfaction even without mentioning our name along with the donation.  It becomes immaterial, who has donated it.  We will also consider helping others with our time and effort.


Stage-5:  We will even think about donating to those whom we consider as our enemies or to those who believe in different ideologies. 


Stage-6:  In this stage, we won’t segregate money, effort, time etc… our aim will only to help others in whatever way we can.


Stage-7:  In this stage we will change our lifestyle and priorities for others.  We don’t even feel we are donating\doing something for someone.  It becomes part of our life. 


About Manoj R

I don't know... still trying to find out...
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